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First dates are a wild experience. You’re meeting somebody new, and maybe you met them on the internet. In a lot of cases, a first date goes great. However, some go not so great.
To put it simply, some people do not know how other people work. People can be rude, demanding, creepy or in some cases, dangerous. Without knowing the person that you’ve started a date with, you are begging for a way out if it starts to go south.
Fortunately, most bars are trained and prepared for this exact scenario.
When you are on a bad date, there are two words to remember. “ANGEL SHOT.”
*At some bars, this is also called “Asking for Angela,” and implies the same concept. Most bars also know how to respond this way as well.
What is an Angel Shot?
Angel Shot is a code-word used by most bars as a means to communicate that you might be in danger. It is like an SOS for management at the establishment you’re at. If you mention an Angel Shot at the bar, most bartenders will know what is going on and will know how to respond.
They’ll typically ask you “how would you like that?” Your choices are also a code-word to let them know how they should respond to the situation.
Angel Shot, Served Neat
Asking for this drink served neat is a code-word for the bartender or bouncer to escort you to your car, or away from the building. This will help you get distance from the person and slip home without the other party being aware that you have left.
Angel Shot On The Rocks
Ordering this drink sends the signal that you would like for the bartender or bouncer to order you an Uber, Lyft or Taxi Cab if you do not have a ride available or do not/cannot drive home. Most commonly, this is used in the event that alcohol is in your system and you’d not like to drive impaired, or you do not have a car at the bar.
Angel Shot With Lime
This final variation of the drink is a very concerning code-word. You communicate that you would like the bartender or the bouncer to help you by calling the Police or intervening with the other patron. Using this code-word is associated with attempted or committed sexual assault, or if the individual you are on the date with becomes hostile or threatens you in any way. It might also be used if you are on a date with somebody prone to domestic abuse in your relationship.
Where Can I Use This Code-Word?
A popular example of an Angel Shot in use can be found at Hooter’s and Buffalo Wind Wings. These establishments commonly offer an Angel Shot and Hooter’s advertises the “drink” in its menu.
Most bars in the United States have adopted the Angel Shot and its code-words, but in the United Kingdom, it is common to “Ask for Angela,” which sends the same message. In the United States, Asking for Angela works as well.
These kinds of code-words are very common at lounges, sports bars, clubs and up-scale restaurants or pubs.
Can Men Use This Code-Word?
If you are at a bar and you need to use the code-word, use it. If somebody laughs at you for it, that is a shame. You should avoid that bar at all costs, because obviously, if they’re no good to help a man out of a bind, who is to say they will properly help a woman out of it too?
Don’t be afraid as a man to use this code-word. If you are uncomfortable or in danger, then use it.
Forget the domestic abuse stigma. Men can be made uncomfortable by women, and men can be abused by women. Do not let anybody fool you. Nothing is one sided, and abuse is abuse regardless of who does it to whom.